I'm really big on being honest with Cole. I try to be honest about my feelings, about what's going on - I think it cuts down on stress when we have wide open communication. If I am upfront with him - "I'm feeling frustrated right now because Chloe peed on the floor again" - he knows exactly why I'm frustrated and knows it's not because of him.
So yesterday when Cole patted my belly and said "BABY!" and I started crying, I knew I had to talk to him about it.
But I was stumped on how to start the conversation.
How do you respectfully and age-apropriately explain to a two year old about a miscarriage? About surgery and a sad mama and no more baby, no more big brother?
I'm not sure if I handled it right. I gave Cole a big hug and looked him in the eyes and told him that the baby was very sick and went to live with God in heaven. There wasn't a baby in my tummy anymore, I told him. God was taking good care of our baby.
I know we'll have to have this conversation again several more times. What a confusing concept for a little guy to grasp, right?
Tell me, how do you explain loss to a little one?